If you know anything about an automobile, then you know that basic maintenance will cause it to last a long time giving you great enjoyment. Well the same thing applies to our relationships with the ladies in our lives. If you are like most of us guys you really want your relationship to work, but sometimes need a little help. I have been quite fortunate to have some older men in my life who took the time out to explain some things to me. One of the greatest lessons they’ve given me is “The Basics.” Let me put it to you like this. If your lady has ever said, “Why can’t you be more romantic?” or “You don’t show your love for me”, then learning the basics will show you how to handle it and a number of other issues.
Let’s get started by defining what “The Basics” are. The basics are ways you show her know that you care, appreciate, notice and are in tune with her. The basics are not dependent on special days (birthdays/holidays), special moments or events. They do not appear to be timed, rehearsed or calculated (in a negative/deceptive way as in trying to deceive or making up for an obvious Dog House moment). The basics are done just because.
You Care: She needs to know that she matters to you. It is important for her to know that she is a priority in your life. In other words do things that lets her know that she comes first.
You Appreciate Her: Let her know in little ways that you are thankful for what she does. Believe me it does not take away our manhood to do this. Actually this brings some very nice benefits. This is so easy. If she cooks a meal and usually washes the dishes, then just take over the kitchen duties for the night and let her relax. You guys are really going to be dangerous.
You Notice Her: Whenever she does something different she wants you to be aware of it. So whenever she changes her hairstyle, wears a different outfit or fixes a special meal for you, compliment her. Try this out and watch her reaction.
You’re In Tune With Her: Have you ever given her something and you got the feeling that she didn’t really feel happy about it? You probably felt that she wasn’t grateful, but what really happened is that you gave her something that indicates that you really don’t know her. You may have given her a big box of chocolate and she would have been satisfied with a small bag of Hershey’s Kisses. This is all about listening to and knowing your lady. I’ve got a lot more info on this, but you’ve got to read my book entitled “The Eve Factor.”
If you are the type of guy who thinks that he doesn’t have to do all of this, then you are also a guy who is totally missing out on the many benefits that the rest of us are enjoying.
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