Have you ever experienced the following scenario? Your lady is upset with you, you don’t know why and when you ask her what is wrong she responds, “You know what’s wrong”? Well the truth is she really thinks you know what’s wrong. It’s not that she feels you can read her mind, but in some ways she feels that you should be in tuned with her enough to know what’s going on. Sometimes a woman’s thought process see something is so obvious that she assumes you see it too. I know you can’t read her mind, but that’s the way it sometimes is. We can wait and expect for her to start thinking like a man ( which may result in making the situation worse) or we can take the lead in the matter. Let her know that you are totally committed to making the relationship work, but because males and females sometimes communicate differently you are unable to do so without her help. Tell her, “I can see that there are things which occur within a relationship that are clearly discernable to you, however they are not that way from the male perspective. It has nothing to do with my love for you, it is just a difference in the male-female view of things.” From that point suggest to her that, “It is something that we can get better at if we are willing to take the time. It won’t happen overnight, but we will get better.” Remind her again that you truly don’t know what the problem is, but would like to know. After she tells you what it is, then proceed to make sure you understand what she is conveying to you by repeating it back to her. Repeat this until you have a clear understanding of what’s troubling the relationship. From that point the two you can begin to come up with a resolution.
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