IDENTIFYING THE EVE FACTOR - Part1

YOU DON'T HAVE TO LOSE YOUR MANHOOD

INTRODUCING THE EVE FACTOR

HEY GUYS HERE'S SECRET #2: SHE THINKS YOU KNOW

Have you ever experienced the following scenario? Your lady is upset with you, you don’t know why and when you ask her what is wrong she responds, “You know what’s wrong”? Well the truth is she really thinks you know what’s wrong. It’s not that she feels you can read her mind, but in some ways she feels that you should be in tuned with her enough to know what’s going on. Sometimes a woman’s thought process see something is so obvious that she assumes you see it too. I know you can’t read her mind, but that’s the way it sometimes is. We can wait and expect for her to start thinking like a man ( which may result in making the situation worse) or we can take the lead in the matter. Let her know that you are totally committed to making the relationship work, but because males and females sometimes communicate differently you are unable to do so without her help. Tell her, “I can see that there are things which occur within a relationship that are clearly discernable to you, however they are not that way from the male perspective. It has nothing to do with my love for you, it is just a difference in the male-female view of things.” From that point suggest to her that, “It is something that we can get better at if we are willing to take the time. It won’t happen overnight, but we will get better.” Remind her again that you truly don’t know what the problem is, but would like to know. After she tells you what it is, then proceed to make sure you understand what she is conveying to you by repeating it back to her. Repeat this until you have a clear understanding of what’s troubling the relationship. From that point the two you can begin to come up with a resolution. 

HEY GUYS HERE'S SECRET #1: KNOW AND DO THE BASICS

 If you know anything about an automobile, then you know that basic maintenance will cause it to last a long time giving you great enjoyment. Well the same thing applies to our relationships with the ladies in our lives. If you are like most of us guys you really want your relationship to work, but sometimes need a little help. I have been quite fortunate to have some older men in my life who took the time out to explain some things to me. One of the greatest lessons they’ve given me is “The Basics.” Let me put it to you like this. If your lady has ever said, “Why can’t you be more romantic?” or “You don’t show your love for me”, then learning the basics will show you how to handle it and a number of other issues.

Let’s get started by defining what “The Basics” are. The basics are ways you show her know that you care, appreciate, notice and are in tune with her. The basics are not dependent on special days (birthdays/holidays), special moments or events. They do not appear to be timed, rehearsed or calculated (in a negative/deceptive way as in trying to deceive or making up for an obvious Dog House moment). The basics are done just because.

You Care: She needs to know that she matters to you. It is important for her to know that she is a priority in your life. In other words do things that lets her know that she comes first.

You Appreciate Her: Let her know in little ways that you are thankful for what she does. Believe me it does not take away our manhood to do this. Actually this brings some very nice benefits. This is so easy. If she cooks a meal and usually washes the dishes, then just take over the kitchen duties for the night and let her relax. You guys are really going to be dangerous.

You Notice Her: Whenever she does something different she wants you to be aware of it. So whenever she changes her hairstyle, wears a different outfit or fixes a special meal for you, compliment her. Try this out and watch her reaction.

You’re In Tune With Her: Have you ever given her something and you got the feeling that she didn’t really feel happy about it? You probably felt that she wasn’t grateful, but what really happened is that you gave her something that indicates that you really don’t know her. You may have given her a big box of chocolate and she would have been satisfied with a small bag of Hershey’s Kisses. This is all about listening to and knowing your lady. I’ve got a lot more info on this, but you’ve got to read my book entitled “The Eve Factor.”

If you are the type of guy who thinks that he doesn’t have to do all of this, then you are also a guy who is totally missing out on the many benefits that the rest of us are enjoying.

WHO CARES HOW ATTRACTIVE THEY ARE?

All of us have met someone who was drop dead gorgeous to later find out that they were not at all who we were looking for. Let’s be for real. We all like having someone who is attractive on our arm. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but when it comes to finding that special someone who we intend to spend the rest of our lives with, looks should not be the beginning and end of our relationship criteria. As I have said on previous occasions we’ve got to know ourselves prior to making that selection. We have got to know our likes, dislikes, needs, things we can truly learn to live with, things we clearly know we will not tolerate and especially those that we deep down within know that will totally break the deal. You see there are those things that we ignore just because. Are you asking me “because of what?” Don’t play games with yourself or me. You know good and well what you’ve settled for to only EXPLODE later in the relationship. Again you’ve got to get to the point where it is over whenever someone crosses the line that you have personally defined as something you totally will not tolerate. If you are honest with yourself you will admit that there were times when you ignored things “just because.” Don’t forget you chose to enter the relationship. So let us grow up a little and stop being so angry with the other person. Is it really worth our time and energy? It only precludes you from moving forward in your life. We could really be doing something more productive. I also don’t want anyone out there to beat up on him or herself for allowing this to happen. All of this is simply a part of life. If you haven’t made a mistake, then you haven’t lived. Besides you are learning how to make better choices.