Partners Hold Hands

Partnership in relationships is an absolute must. It is a powerful commitment and without it the relationship will fail. The two of you may yet be together, but the relationship is not working because without partnership it has become out of balance. Partnership means that you are in each other’s corner working towards the best for each other regardless of what it takes. It’s a conscious decision emphatically made by both parties. In becoming partners, there must be an understanding that it will require a considerable amount of effort, so don’t expect it to be easy. In fact, it is only maintained by constant work. One of the special things that partnership brings to the relationship table is SECURITY. Security is the peace in knowing that the other person is going to be there for you regardless. Committed Partnership has the ability to help us become more tolerant, patient, appreciative, protective, unselfish and loving towards one another. When things get tough committed partnership reminds us that the two of us are in this thing together. The next time you find yourself in an argument try this exercise: You can do this either sitting or standing. Face to face, take each other by both hands and continue the argument. You can do this because “Partners Hold Hands.”

Why Do I Always Choose The Wrong Person?

One of the most interesting relationship questions that I’ve ever been asked is, “Why do I always pick the wrong person?” It is usually accompanied by this question, “How do I stop picking the wrong person?” While there are many answers to these questions I think one of the most important one is the fact that knowledge of oneself must take precedence to entering into a relationship with someone else. What I mean is that you have to choose to know yourself first. Doing so will arm you with the information necessary for making wise choices when it comes to being romantically linked. For example: What are your likes, dislikes, ambitions in life, traditions and personal beliefs? How did you grow up? Did you have a large family with gatherings or no family at all? What have been the experiences that have shaped your life? Are there things that you don’t mind settling for? What about behaviors that you will not tolerate? Are you very passionate, talkative, quiet, adventurous, withdrawn or fun loving? How important are these things to you?  These are things you need to know. I have only listed a few of them, but it is by knowing some of these things that you will have what you need to form a set of solid expectations, requirements and boundaries for a relationship with someone else. Please understand that these determinations need to be made BEFORE you are faced with a moment of decision. That way you won’t have to think about them. They will have the ability to automatically kick in when you need them. Unless you take the time (YES I SAID TAKE) to do this you will be like someone blindfolding themselves and stopping up their ears before choosing between two barrels to stick their hand into. One of the barrels, which will be nearest to you, is filled with venomous vipers and the other contains the keys to one of life’s greatest treasures. You’ll just keep choosing the nearest, most available and assessable barrel where you will consistently get bitten. Why not take the time to choose you first instead?