In all of my experience teaching couples to build strong, lasting and loving relationships I have found that everyone experiences a point where communication with one another becomes difficult. Sometimes situations are either too painful or problematic where verbal communication just can't be done without explosive results. I'm talking about those times where both parties want to be heard and are not interested in listening to the other person's side of the story. Everyone knows that if there is no communication the only thing that we have left are bad attitudes, assumptions and an ever growing unhealthy situation. Whenever I have a couple that are experiencing this I always encourage them to find a way to communicate. One of the best ways that I have found to break the ice is to mail a letter to the other person without a return address. In the letter take the time to tactfully convey what you want your mate to know. Why a letter?
- It is because people will read a letter even when they have no interest in talking to you.
- They can't argue with a letter.
- While they may get angry with what they read there is no real physical confrontation.
- They will know what is on your heart
- It shows that you value your relationship enough to do what it takes to keep communication alive
I have never seen this fail to open up communication. Try it. Don't be surprised if you get a letter back.
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